My Ex Husband’s New Girlfriend Found My Number to Ask Me Just One Question — When I Read Her Text, I Was Stunned

 

I was stunned to see my ex-husband’s new girlfriend’s text after she found my number and asked me a single question.

 

 

The main plot point of my narrative is how my ex-husband’s girlfriend discovered a reality about him that I had become very accustomed to over our marriage. She reached out to me unexpectedly and offered me a great lesson about loving myself through one important question.

It’s been five years since my divorce, and adjusting to life without marriage hasn’t been easy. After 13 years of marriage, my 45-year-old ex-husband, Ben, 48, and I had two amazing children. We were able to maintain our wonderful relationship even after our breakup.

 

Despite the ups and downs of our marriage, we co-parent successfully. In addition to being the best of friends, Ben and I have maintained a friendship that most people find surprising. Our divorce wasn’t unpleasant; we just had different priorities in life.

 

Our oldest child turned sixteen yesterday, so we decided to have a family supper to celebrate. Ben has been seeing Lisa, a new woman, for the past four months or so. As soon as their relationship became serious, he told me about her.

 

Our commitment to maintaining openness and honesty for the benefit of our kids included transparency. I wasn’t happy about it because I would have preferred to meet Lisa one-on-one first, but I also didn’t want to start any controversy or bother her. He asked if he could bring Lisa to the birthday dinner. I thus concurred.

 

It was with some relief that I finally met Lisa on that fateful day; she was amiable and keen to make a good impression. If she was going to be around my kids, I would have preferred her to be a good person.

 

She smiled warmly and started talking to me about the kids’ activities and school right away. She was clearly making a lot of effort to blend in, which I found admirable.

 

As the evening wore on, I became aware of Lisa’s attentiveness toward Ben. Though I never saw that side of him during our marriage, it was sweet and a little unsettling all at same. I tried to concentrate on the kids and the celebration, writing it off as fresh relationship energy.

 

Things became strange throughout dinner when my eldest gave me her father’s birthday card halfway through. I was surprised by this since my birthday was months ago. It’s frequently forgotten, and Ben has never been the kind to remember these kinds of things.

 

Please understand that the father of my children is a wonderful man. However, he is terribly bad on important events like birthdays and anniversaries. In all the years we were dating, Ben never gave me a card or a gift.

 

I was also in charge of organizing things like Christmas and the children’s birthdays. His lack of memory didn’t annoy me. I was moved by my daughter’s kindness and thanked her.

 

Lisa, who was seated across from me, noticed my shock. I thought she had helped him understand, but then I noticed the amusing looks she was giving me. Not sure what they meant, I chose to sidestep the unpleasantness by mingling with the other visitors.

 

However, Lisa was able to get my interest in some way. She laughed and continued, “Ben mentioned he’s not great with birthdays.” A few weeks ago, he forgot mine. Is it deliberate?

 

I chuckled as I thought back to all the forgotten special days and missed anniversaries. I answered, “I don’t know, Lisa, but 13 years of marriage and two children wasn’t the standard because he never really grasped it.” “It simply is who he is.”

 

Lisa attempted to disguise her disappointment, but I ignored her and continued chatting with other visitors. We said our goodbyes with hugs and grins, and the remainder of the evening proceeded without incident.

 

I was getting ready for bed later that night when I got a text from an unknown number. It was the new girlfriend of my ex. “Hello, I’m Lisa. Ben gave me your phone number. I’m hoping I can text you. I had a question for you.

 

I said inquiringly, “Sure, what’s up?”

 

She responded right away, and I was astounded to see what she had written. She was asking if there was a way to address Ben’s forgetfulness of important occasions because she hadn’t moved on from our brief previous talk. “We talked about it earlier, so I know this might seem strange, but I need to know.”

 

Does Ben ever get better at celebrating anniversaries and birthdays? If it’s not going to change, I don’t want to make a big deal out of it. I was feeling a range of emotions as I glanced at my phone. A part of me wanted to advise her not to expect anything at all, to caution her.

 

However, another part of me wondered if I should warn Ben since it appeared that his new girlfriend took this seriously and that she expected greater attention to things like this. However, a part of me hated having to impart superior knowledge to him about something he had never tried on me.

 

I also thought that me interfering wasn’t appropriate. I responded with, “Really, there’s a reason he’s my ex,” after a brief pause. I’m not going to have the information you require, and I have no idea if he will change or not. “It’s something you guys will have to work out together,” I said. It was a pleasure to meet you, anyway.

 

I didn’t think much about that night for months afterward. Then, one night, I received an unexpected call from Ben. With a furious tone, he said, “Lisa and I broke up.”

 

“What took place?” With real curiosity, I asked.

 

She was always making a huge deal out of nothing and whining about anniversaries and birthdays. He seemed enraged as he continued, “I told her it’s not something I care about, and she just wouldn’t let it go.”

 

He said, his voice tinged with displeasure, “It turned into this huge argument when I forgot our anniversary, and she left.”

 

I sighed and felt a tinge of guilt, wondering whether I might have helped them by being more helpful to Lisa during her texts. Did she tell you that it was significant to her, Ben? I inquired since I thought that my answers to Lisa contributed to their separation.

 

He remained silent for a while. “She often told me that these kinds of things meant a lot to her.”

 

However, WHO CARES! He retorted, “You never made it a big deal.”

 

I responded, “Well, sir, and that’s why we divorced,” fed up with pleading with him.

 

With a dejected tone, my ex answered, “That’s mean, Kim.”

 

Calmly, I said, “Look, I’m sorry, but I stopped trying because I knew it wouldn’t matter to you.” It doesn’t mean, however, that it wasn’t significant to me. or addressed to her. People must be met halfway.

 

Ben muttered something under his breath, and it was obvious he wasn’t quite ready to face reality. After we had a cordial phone conversation, I sat there wondering about Lisa. She should have found someone who would value her work and feel the same way about her.

 

I ran saw Lisa at the grocery store a few days later. Despite her apparent fatigue, she managed to grin upon seeing me. “Hello, how are you?” she said courteously.

 

“Thanks, I’m OK. What say you? Sincerely concerned, I responded.

 

She said, “I’ve been better.” “Ben and I had an affair.”

 

“I heard,” I mutely replied. “I apologize that it didn’t work out.”

 

She let out a sigh. “I was unable to handle feeling unimportant. He seemed uninterested in my attempts to clarify things to him.

 

I nodded, knowing all too well how frustrated she was. When someone doesn’t respect what you do, it might be difficult. Someone who will is what you deserve.

 

Lisa gave a sorrowful smile. “Many thanks. Thank you for that. I suppose I thought he may change.

 

I said softly, “Change is hard for some people.” But hold onto your hope. Someone who values you will come along.

 

I experienced an odd sense of closure as we said our goodbyes. Lisa’s struggle was a reflection of my own former disappointments, but it also demonstrated my growth after my divorce. Ben’s shortcomings were something I had come to terms with, but I also knew that I was worth more than he was prepared to offer.

 

I sat down with my kids that night and we talked about their dad. I wanted them to know that despite his flaws, he was genuinely devoted to them. We chuckled at his carelessness and reminisced about our wonderful family memories.

 

Deep tranquility enveloped me as I thought about it all. I was prepared to accept whatever lay ahead of me now that I had moved past the hurt and disappointment. I knew that by staying out of their relationship, I had done the right thing, and I hoped Lisa would find the happiness she deserved.

 

It wasn’t about anniversaries or birthdays in the end. Finding someone who genuinely respected and appreciated you for who you are was the key. I knew that I was now happy with my own life, and I had no doubt that Lisa would find that someone eventually.

 

I was thankful for the love and happiness my children brought into my life as I gazed at them. Even though we had our ups and downs, what really mattered was that we were a family. Regarding Ben, my hope was that he would eventually come to appreciate the significant aspects of life.

 

Right then, I was content. I felt at peace for the first time in a long time, and I had my kids and friends with me. That was more than sufficient.

 

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